Sunday, July 5, 2009

A paragraph on loneliness.

I was talking to a friend recently about marriage, dating, and the loneliness in between. They were saying how hard and confusing it can be and how sometimes they just wish it would be over and they'd have someone who would love them, that they could love in return. It is hard, and confusing, and awkward, and painful, but maybe it's a small price to pay? Or at the very least it's worth it. Loneliness is never easy, or enjoyable, but maybe we need to readjust our focus ...Is it better to struggle with loneliness for a few years up front while we figure out who we are and inevitably who is right for us, or is it better to find someone, anyone, to marry and quench that loneliness right away and risk being lonely for the rest of our lives?

3 comments:

Jolene Nicole said...

What a powerful and much needed question!!

Unknown said...

I agree with this to an extent, but I don't think it covers the base issue which is that our loneliness is a symptom of needing God's love and approval in our lives, not just a need for another human. The love we need is heavenly, not earthly.

Debi said...

Without question, true and perfect love/contentment can only be found in God, but that's a different topic all together. Which is why I said "struggling" with loneliness. The reality is that God created humanity with a need and desire for connection, and while we can only truely be fulfilled in him, every human on one day or another will struggle with loneliness because of that desire. That being said, it is impossible to deny that reality. So the question is...is it better to struggle in the beginning while you figure stuff out, or is it better to battle it out for the rest of your life?

P.S.
However, this is only applicable for people who desire and intend to marry